Dear Mom, I don’t want to move out of the house but I have to do what’s best for me.
Have you ever moved back in with your parents while jumping between jobs or locations? I have. It’s my second time “moving back home.” It wasn’t planned but as I mentioned before life happens whether we want it to or not. Recently, I’ve been bouncing around ideas of where I want to move to. Big city, small city. Buy a house, rent a house. It’s crazy to think about my 10-year-old perspective on what my life would entail at 24. LOL WAS I WRONG!
Rock me Mamma
For the majority of my life, my mom and I have been independent. Well, I have depended on my mom a hell of a lot but we’ve been each other’s support for several years. Rough day at the counter? Let’s hear it. Bullied at school? Who did it? I’ve never realized our connection until I legit grew up, moved to an unexplored city and my mom always answered the phone just to hear my tears hit the speaker.
While working from home for nearly 3 months, I’ve received several “I don’t know how you live with your parents.” Honestly, I don’t either but I’d guess it has to do with our two storied house and my reluctancy to stay home on the weekends. Rather than gasping for air like most people my age, I’m finding it hard to leave. To leave my family, my pets and LoriKat’s baked goods that are tipping the Quarantine 15 scale. Why now am I afraid to spread my wings when I’ve never looked back before? Perhaps, it’s the insecurity of being 24 and single or the absence of my safety net job on Winner’s Main Street during a global pandemic. I’m going with the latter.
Full Proof Pro-Con List
Whenever we need to make a decision, a daily hairdo or monthly car payment, a pro-con list never let us down. In my experience, the advantages of moving out of your parent’s house far exceed the drawbacks. Moving up and moving away is good for us. We learn to think on our own, and explore new opportunities by being uncomfortable. We grow. We grow in friendships, in emotional stability, and most importantly within ourselves. It’s easy to see yourself in a sheltered world when living with the people who raised you, who protected you from ugly scenes. Living on your own allows unlimited access to the naked world where racism, violence and poverty are real issues by real people. It’s okay to expose your vulnerable side to be human and connect with others. To make a change and feel responsible for your own perspectives.
While the fear of financial difficulties roar in your head, focus on the adventures you could be missing out on. Explore the What Ifs. If you don’t have severe FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out for all you boomers reading this), then keep on, keepin’ on. Stay in your lane, keep the adrenaline low and hunker down for the latest Netflix binge. But remember, even Joe Exotic and Carole Baskin have a series finale.
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